Adapendability

If there is that single person you would want to drive you home safely when you've had a long night out and all you can possibly do is crawl to your bed, you'd want that person to be her. Yes, that particular designated driver happens to be a she.



She's known as Ada to her family and friends, which would be the root word of the new term I coined for her: Adapendability. Simply put, she's the person you can depend on for so many things. Driving you home safely is just one of them.

If you feel down and just need to get out of a rut, she’d do the following for you: pick you up from your house, drive you to wherever time will permit, and just let you be. She'd let you talk, cry, or be silent if you want to. But if she can’t be there in person, she’d give you a call to make sure you're A-ok.

She's the youngest among her girlfriends in terms of biological age but she's not the type who needs any babying. In the contrary, she's the one who makes sure everybody's all right. It's amazing how she's genuinely happy when others around her are happy. If everyone could learn to be happy like that then we’d fill the world with happiness instead of keeping on pursuing it.

As the eldest of four kids in her family, she is the epitome of the Filipino concept of "Ate". She enjoys hanging out or just hanging in their home with all her cute little siblings. She runs errands with or for them without any complaints. I should actually take note that "these cute little siblings" of hers are all starting to grow bigger and taller by the minute and they're no longer the little kids that they used to be.

It has been said many times that time flies fast because it really does. I’ve actually met her when we were little kids ourselves, playing patintero and touch-ball during lunch break in grade school. And I've seen her bloom in college and at the big world of work. A person who stands and lives by her principles, her continuous blooming is a certainty.

While many of her girlfriends eventually mastered the art of talking seventy thousand words per minute, she has mastered listening and absorbing stories of the same speed. She remains to speak in her own manner when it's her turn to talk -- calmly, chronologically, and thoughtfully. Her belief is that if nobody kept quiet to listen, we’d all end up not understanding one another. She's a listener as much as she is a giver.

She may come off a little shy for some but that’s just apparent in the beginning of friendship. I could attest that she is highly expressive of herself and her feelings when it comes to her close friends and family. Or when a bit of alcohol enters the equation.

Currently, she balances her time with corporate work, MBA studies, family, friends, and her own businesses on the side. Whether that list grows longer soon or not, she remains to be happy little miss Adapendent.

From her, I witnessed how a dreamer can still be very pragmatic. She fulfills her dreams by setting a big goal and targeting smaller goals along the road. And sometimes she literally targets things seen on the road and hits that bull's eye at a young age.

Being the private person that she is, you’d have to break into her shell to see the beautiful soul within. I’ve been doing it for the past years and just like any other shell, I’ve seen how breaking it makes my friend even more real and endearing.

Sarah Amelyn and Her Beautiful World

I am blessed to have a dear friend whom I first met in 4th grade and have kept through high school, college, and beyond. If there's a single line that I could use to describe her, it would be this: The Woman with the Purest Soul.


She is dedicated to her passions. She lives up to them in a weekly manner by spending time with children in various communities. She loves deeply. She loves her family, her friends, her country, humanity, and the man of her silent dreams. For those who have just heard of the term silent dreams, they work just like silent television shows where you simply watch and understand everything. No questions asked.




Sincerity is part of her charm. Upon arriving in a party, she once candidly said to one of our friends, “You have the same dress as Lala!” and it didn’t sound a bit mean. And even if the dress actually belonged to me, the entire ordeal came out as hilarious primarily because the comment came from her. You should meet her to feel that particular vibe. She's funny without trying.

If you find yourself in a large but comfortable group with her, she can figuratively kill you with her semi-harmful jokes and out-of-this-world comments. And this mannerism of hers sometimes merits a famous response: “That’s not very nice.” She would laugh that off and make even more jokes. She does not stop when she’s on a roll so her friends prepare themselves from falling off their seats or gagging from laughter.



This does not remove the fact however that when you get to talk to her on a more personal level, she will listen to you without judgment and make you recognize for yourself what it was that you needed to discover in the first place. If you get to talk to her in a one-on-one conversation, you are bound to feel light and positive about yourself and about the world.

She has clearly delineated ignorance from innocence – that you need not have the former to be innocent. From her, I witnessed how a person can be exposed to the multiplicity of reality and still remain intact with her core. That is why she’s the purest.

And also because she’s the purest soul I know, it does not make sense that vanity is the devil’s favorite sin. I think that the devil’s favorite sin ought to be greed, of which she does not possess a single drop in her blood. She gives everything she can give – her time, her thoughts, and all her efforts if there is a need for all those.

She loves photos as much as she loves flowers, strawberries, and looking at gorgeous legs of women. Yes, of women. It’s a pastime that I think is much better than making fun of other people.

She loves beautiful places and faces. At most, she loves gazing at them. Again, there are times that she would verbalize her admiration for faces of women. I would like to point out however that she does not have any inkling or desire to be with a woman other than shop, talk, dine, or go to the beach with her.

If there is a reason big enough to move her, she writes about her reflections and sends them to people whose reaction is nothing less than awe and gratefulness. She gets published when she wants to and touches more lives in that way. But more than that, she touches lives of those immediate to her. The people she has worked with, has lived with, and has grown with can all attest to this.

Since I cannot write everything about her, I will just let her be. And that’s the entire point of her beauty and purity. She simply is.